A Single State of Mind
Single isn’t just a box you check on your tax return.
Single is a state of mind. When you combine self-confidence, self-worth, and self-love, you get a potent cocktail of swagger that allows you to live your life for yourself on your own terms.
You don’t have to be single to have a single state of mind. If you’re in a relationship, you can still cultivate a single state of mind. I would encourage you to do so.
Because a single state of mind makes you a better version of yourself.
Pre-spinster days, I was single, but I did not have a single state of mind.
I was constantly worried about being single.
What did it say about me?
That I was unattractive.
That I was an outcast.
That I was unloveable.
And I was 100% certain that everyone was judging me. Friends. Strangers. Coworkers. They could all see my flaws.
I thought I was so pathetic that no one had “chosen” me. I contorted myself into all kinds of different shapes because I thought it would land me a boyfriend.
But how times have changed! I realized that dating wasn’t the game I needed to be playing to feel good about myself.
